“Don’t waver too long and admit defeat, please. We don’t have much time left.”

“Don’t waver too long and admit defeat, please. We don’t have much time left.”
-Kang Ji Wook to his father, Scent of a Woman Episode 14

How badass can he get?! I love him! And when his father asks him if Yeon Jae told him to die if he would, he answered “I would. But she would never ask me to do that, because she wants me to be happy.” Unlike you, Dad!

Lee Yeon Jae is so generous with her love; she’s not selfish, unlike Ji Wook’s father, who makes demands of his son without considering his feelings and sees him as the heir to his company first and as his son second. Yeon Jae looks after Ji Wook, she tells him not to fill his life up only with her because she knows, from her experience with her father, that after she dies, it’ll just be that much harder for him to be able to live happily. And Ji Wook knows that Yeon Jae’s love is one that is conscientious to him and his wishes. I love the push and pull between them now, how, now that they are dating with no secrets, they have to negotiate their relationship. It’s something we rarely see in romances nowadays, because people always go the Austen route, showing us how our heros get together, but not how they are together, not how they continue to be together, which is just as hard as getting together in the first place. I love how Ji Wook has to navigate the relationship with Yeon Jae’s mother, how Yeon Jae has to find a way to tell him that she loves him wholeheartedly, but needs space in her life for other people as well as herself, and how Ji Wook has to find a way to respect and accomodate that while still showing how much he loves her and wants to be with her, and he does it so simply, just by telling her to do her best, and to come back to him.

I also love Ji Wook’s relationship with his dad, how he stands up for himself and speaks his mind, but never retaliates, never disrespects him, and, in fact, humbles himself to his father, despite knowing that he’s in the wrong, and begs him to leave Yeon Jae alone. It’s this aspect of …I don’t know how to describe it…except, maybe to compare him to water, how when you throw a rock in water it simply ripples around it and closes over it and isn’t that disturbed by it. Or perhaps that proverb about the bending reed being stronger that the tree in a storm. Ji Wook is resilient. He resembles Yeon Jae in that manner. It’s the same way that he acts toward Sea Kyung, too. And it’s this same aspect of forbearance and resilience that in the first few episodes manifested themselves as ennui and unconcernedness with the world, this same trait that has morphed (or blossomed, rather), under Yeon Jae’s influence, into this ability to accomodate things without agreeing with them, to be able to stand against things without anger or violence, which I believe, feeds into his ability to love Yeon Jae as she loves him, unselfishly, without the urge to feel upset when she places boundaries in their relationship.

Ugh. This show. This show. The death of me.

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